Why does dating involve so many games? I, myself, am not a playa. I'm a straight shootin' chick who doesn't really try to manipulate people for my own personal benefit. I have little to no expectations when it comes to blossoming relationships and bring nothing but honesty when someone opens himself up to me.
That said, sometimes a girl feels like she's gotta get in the game playing business when she repeatedly gets played herself.
(This is when those of you out there say, Don't hate the playa, hate the game, yo. Whatever.)
Now, I don't think I'm getting played now. In fact, I feel like 2006 has brought me nothing but nice, intelligent men full bursting with integrity and respect. The year's not over yet, but so far, so good. But life wasn't always this good in my hood (random shoutout to T-Homas here), in fact there were some times in my life when I was quite taken advantage of, getting played more than a penny slot at Caesar's.
It pretty much sucks, to put it bluntly, to be caught in this Catch-22 of dating.
- Don't put up a front, bring on the honesty, and have someone trash/take advantage of you
- Bring on the game playing and never really establish the makings of a genuine relationship
I'm sticking to my guns on this one though, folks.
There's no need to cheat a chance at an honest relationship all for the sake of manipulating someone into doing they wouldn't do on their own. That's just so cheap.