Thursday, March 30, 2006

Start Me Up? - The Rub On Internet Dating

It's no secret: I'm single.

I write about it, I talk about it, I bitch and complain about it. It's a situation I can only do so much to change, and so like so many 20 or 30 somethings, I've turned to internet dating.

Let me share with you my fiery enthusiam for the high-tech dating arena.

Yeah, that was with dead pan delivery.

I gotta say, logging on to find lovin' leaves me with anything but a revved motor and a hot heart. Maybe its the anonymity, maybe its the impersonal nature, either way I have a hard time developing any passion for someone who slaps a profile on the internet.

I have, however, gotten anxious about a guy across a crowded room. In the past, I've also developed a bit of interest in someone after a dose of clever repartee. I guess what gets me going is personal interaction.

The problem with internet dating (and I think maybe I've pontificated about this before) is that some people fail to make their relationship progress from the keyboard to the dart board, or movie theatre or dining room or any other dating activity spot.

Recently, I've had the good fortune of exchanging profiles with a man who's jumping at the chance to put an in-person face with my screen name. That I can get excited about. I have a hard time cultivating some interest for someone who sends me a "wink," a "shout out," a "you got some purdy teeth," or a "hey bitch, I wanna be yo' baby daddy." Okay, so maybe I'm stretching it a bit on those last two, but if you saw some of the profiles floating around out there, then you'd know what I'm talking about.

Chemistry, baby... that seems to be the easiest way to spark a romance, and I don't care how hardwired your motherboard is, I don't think chemistry is one thing you can send through the World Wide Web.


Michael Hickerson said...

I will agree it can be hard to send the chemistry via the web.

But I will have to admit that when I try the on-line dating thing, I at least try and read the woman's entire profile, think about if what she is looking for matches me and vice versa and then try to write a response that says more than "Hey, you sure look purdy..."

But I will say more often than not, I get no response back. None, zip, zilch nada. And I'm not sure how to feel about it. On the one hand, I'm sort of irritated that I at least took more than two seconds to write to you and I just ask that you write back to me even if you're not interested saying thanks but no thanks. I do that and I wonder if it's too much to hope for the same from the ladies. But then the long silence does seem to indicate she's not that into you figure it out.

I don't know...I just wonder if the sea of guys out there who send a shout out as you say make it more difficult for those of us who are out there and serious about it....

Just a thought.

spydrz said...

I tried the internet thing once...let's just say it didn't work out as advertised.

Me! said...

I'm a Internet dating chick. I like it. It works for me. No, there isn't any comparison in locking eyes with someone across a crowded room, but it does allow you to have plans often. There is a good chance I wouldn't meet someone otherwise even though we both live in the tri-state area. Not all of us can hang out at the Hyde Park Krogers. Besides, you may even make a couple friends, and those friends might have friends. I've kept in contact with a lot of the men I've dated. And believe it or not, they've wanted to fix me up with a friend or brother etc. It's a different time. Besides, it's Cincinnati. There's not THAT many places to go to meet single available men.

Kate The Great said...

GAC... I am starting to see the light on this one. I am not so much of a "chaser" online. I've got my profile on there and I wink back at the ones who wink at me... Well at least the ones I'm interested in.

After my date this weekend,,, I've had some new faith restored in the high tech dating avenue...