Wednesday, April 05, 2006

Question For The Peanut Gallery

It's officially Wednesday.

The Date was Saturday.

Should I be antsy that I haven't had a phone call? Should I call/email him? Should I wait it out a little bit longer?

Should I cut bait?

The general consensus among my Middle Of The Night crew is that I should wait 'til the weekend, possibly Sunday to touch base (should I not hear anything).

In the past, John has commented about not knowing when to call me because of my wacky schedule, so perhaps that's a factor...

All these questions swirling around in my noggin, mixed with hope, self doubt, second guessing, wonder and dread.

Whatcha think? I could always consider the epic wisdom of Swingers...

Mike: So how long do I wait to call?
Trent: A day.
Mike: Tomorrow.
Sue: Tomorrow, then a day.
Trent: Yeah.
Mike: So two days?
Trent: Yeah, I guess you could call it that, two days.
Sue: Definitely, two days is like industry standard.
Trent: You know I used to wait two days to call anybody, but now it's like everyone in town waits two days. So I think three days is kind of money. What do you think?
Sue: Yeah, but two's enough not to look anxious.
Trent: But I think three days is kind of money. You know because you...
Mike: Yeah, but you know what, mabey I'll wait 3 weeks. How's that? And tell her I was cleaning out my wallet and I just happened to run into her number.
Charles: Then ask her where you met her.
Mike: Yeah, I'll ask her where I met her. I don't remember. What does she look like? And then I'll asked if we fucked. Is that... would that be... T, would that be the money?
Trent: You know what. Ha ha ha Mike, laugh all you want but if you call too soon you might scare off a nice baby who's ready to party.
Mike: Well how long are you guys gonna wait to call your babies?
Trent, Sue: Six days.


The Notorious N.A.T said...

Well, my recent experience (Mr. Potential) says that you should never, for any reason, call the man. For some reason they translate that into needy and desperate (which, may be true i.e. me) but we shouldn't clue them in just yet. Awesome. Do you have alternate ways of communicating in the past - email/text/IM? I say wait, let him call/email/text/IM you--because they do the man freak out if they're not in "control." EWW. I can't believe I just admitted that. I feel dirty now.

And I used to think I was such a strong woman.


Me! said...

I totally agree with Nat. Although it sucks, she's right. Men have to feel like they are in control. If we take the lead we are no longer a challenge whereby ending the cat and mouse game. Besides, although I loathe admitting this, "He's Just Not That Into You" is probably the most realistic & smart dating book ever written. Don't call him. If you don't hear from him, say "Next!". I know it's easier said than done though.

Anonymous said...

If you can stand to hear it a third time -- never call the guy this early in dating. If he's really into you, he'll call. Becomes even more true the older they get.